
Warrior has been playing a few positions on the field. He is strong and he is determined. He has the desire of 13 warriors and then some! He amazes me. He never complains. He just gets it done. I think he dropped 3 gallons of sweat on the field.

He is a leader both on the field and off the field. Have you noticed how people award mediocrity? Everybody is lumped into one big group. It has become politically incorrect to award Johnny for making straight A's and an give an entire class punishment by having no recess because Bobby couldn't follow the class rules. I just have to say "GRRRrrr or HONK" like the geese do.
This post is leading to a rant can you feel it?? We have been quite active in our sporting community. I suppose having 4 children contributes to this. Many non members and school teachers commend us on such a fine young gent Warrior is. They never mention anything about his hair. To every practice and to every game our entire family is out there supporting one another. All six of us will be there cheering unless we have two playing at the same time. Where half will go with one and the other half to the other game.
I tire of church members who make comments to my son and to me about his hair. Do I say to you, "My it looks like you have gained 20 lbs?" Do I say, oh my gosh that receding hair line is even bigger? Do I ask you Do you smoke or drink caffeine? because your teeth say otherwise. NO NO NO and NO!!! I just want to go ghetto on them, and the thought crosses my mind.

Don't you just love the unsolicited opinions of others? NOT! There is nothing else to pick at Warrior for. Isn't it funny how it is human nature to pick at oneself or other's flaws until they become open sores? Who will be there when this pecking and ribbing leaves a gaping wound in my son's soul? Will those same who cast their stones be there to heal?? NO! they won't. It will be myself and Mr. Incredible to heal those scrapes and if the scrapes go deeper and become wounds the gospel principles that have been taught in our home will be enough. But will it? We are never truly guaranteed. WE are blessed that Warrior's personality is not one to take offense. He is quick to forgive and to forget. I sure wish I was blessed with that gift.
Weeks ago one of our sacrament talks was on judging and being judgemental. It was a very good talk. I continue to learn lessons of forgiveness, peace and mercy through Warrior and Sweetheart. He rarely lets things or comments bother him but when they do, they cut me to the deepest depths of my soul and I just come out FUMING!! He is much wiser than his years! He is charismatic, great with children and I have never heard him talk about anyone.
Warrior responds back to others whom he knows is being cutting with humor. I love that!! I love that he is quick enough on his feet when attacked to come back with LOVE! Instead of the bite and sting of venom.

22 comments:
He's a warrior indeed. I'm so happy he doesn't let it bother him. He knows he has you and his family who stands behind him.
We had a RS lesson on being judgemental. One sister said this...
"Once I brought a friend to church. She smelled of smoke and wore clothes that weren't "tradional" for church. She was uncomfortable. She made the comment that she knew everyone could smell her.
Another friend said to her, "honey, if all of our sins stunk, this room would smell horrid!""
You know my rant over this one. You and I met through the hair post I did. I get this all to well. It is a very frustrating and discouraging thing I have ever seen. It's hair. I've honestly learned that adults can be a bully too. We have got to stop and really think eternal perspective here. Really. I can think of so many more worse things.
I just love his attitude though. He will be fine. My son, I don't know. I really don't. He was so picked on by members, that sometimes I wonder. But I always have hope and pray.
Thanks for sharing his story and yours. It will help many. We have to learn to be less judging. It's a problem.
I honestly wonder what some people are thinking sometimes. Do they even realize that, while their intentions may be good, and they are trying to help, that their comments are hurtful?
My kids aren't old enought to worry about hair or anything, but I've had plenty of unsolicited advice on how to raise my children, and what type of mother I should be. Sometimes, I wish people would mind their own business.
I don't think someone's haircut is the deal breaker on their salvation.
You sure have an Incredible son. He just sounds amazing.... I think his hair looks good. Anytime my husband has any facial hair he has comments made to him. By Bishopric & Stake... I guess it's not ok for a priesthood holder to have facial hair?
I am so glad your son is a Warrior. You've done a great job!
I love his hair. He is beautiful. But don't tell him that, it might not be a compliment to him. But I meant it as one.
I appreciate this post. It helps me to remember to not say anything that could be taken the wrong way.
We have a young man in our ward that has much longer hair than Warrior. This boy's mother has cried on my shoulder about the unkindness that has been pointed toward her son.
So you are not alone. Let us all accept each other in love. m
You have a great son! WHATS the deal with some people anyway? Its the whole mote beam thing... You have taught him well... he is a warrior in every sense of the word! Whats the big deal with his hair anyway? He is a WONDERFUL looking young man!
I so feel for you, people always comment on Elaisi's hair, and why don't I cut it to look like a missionary, or just a boy.. PEOPLE, STAY OFF MY BACK, AND I WILL STAY OFF YOURS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Gosh....tell him that your blog friend MERRIANNE is having people insult her hair, too...yeah..ya know since i got my hair cut!?!?! some people are so CRUEL!!!!
AM i going to have to go out there so you & i can go kick some Butt!?!
there ain't nuthin worse than a Good Old Fsshioned Southern Butt-Whoopin!!!!!
{i'm crackin my knuckles as i type just warmin up!}
your son's hair is HOT--seriously. so is his face...ok...he is GORGEOUS!!!!!!!! and i would NOT say that if i didn't mean it.
and i have good taste.
and i am glad he is not letting those freak-a-zoid-negative people get to him.
Rock On Warrior Boy....
yeah....just let me know if you need me....we'll TAG TEAM on their butts!
Ohhhh Mother goose, we have the same complaint!
People don't mind their own BUSINESS. Our issue isn't about hair but just people being judgemental, not knowing all they THINK they know, and making comments. Duuuuuuude-thanks but no thanks. I raise my kids how I see fit and don't need your input thank you very much.
Last year I was going to be down for 3 months recovering from an extensive "female" surgery. I was letting 2 people know that I wouldn't be there and someone needed to fill in for me teaching S.S. People hounded me and hounded me and wanted to know exactly WHAT I was having surgery for. Ya know, some things I like to keep private. Why can't others respect my privacy?! We don't have to share EVERYTHING with EVERY ward member. or do we? lol
Sorry, that got out of hand. But I feel ya sistah. In my ward, people get all worried over the salvation of a girl who puts a green stripe in her hair. Gimme a break.
I've been thinking about this a lot lately...why it's so much easier (and why we're so much quicker) to criticize, to find the negative than the postitive. I really think that it's just in our nature, and that it takes a real change of heart to make look for the good, to find joy in the negative.
He's a beautiful boy, and it sounds like he has a beautiful heart, too!
Oh My! I think being judgmental is one of the easiest sins satan can get us to commit. Usually because of insecurities about ourselves.
Your son is so far ahead of the pack. He sounds truly amazing.
People are crazy. First of all, your son's hair totally fits him and I actually love it. Second of all you have the most loving children I know. My husband and I always comment on what great parents you are and how well you've raised/are raising your children.
It's amazing how children have an ability to pick out the really good spirits and cling to them. My daughter is shy but absolutely loves your children. She is always looking for them in the crowd. She even shares her candy with them, and that's a feat!
Hey, thanks everyone for your kind comments. I'm a bit, no scratch that, I'm embarrassed. These are raw emotions for me. I even worried and asked someone to read it over, before I posted. Mr. Incredible read it and his comment was, "Those are some strong emotions."
I think this should have been a journal entry and not a blog entry.
Thank you for your words of support.
We have to be mindful of how we speak to our youth, let alone how we speak to one another. MG
Mg- I forgot to tell you, that you should tell them the hair is a must, in the days, if you cut the hair of a warrior, their stregth will go too, so tell them that, this in not a bad post, just how you feel... If we can't be human- why should we live!!!!
Gosh, your son is so gorgeous and looks like a powerful warrior, and people criticize him for his hair? HAIR????!!!! I'll tell you why I'm sympathetic. My son went through a long hair period, and he has curly, poufy hair like me and people in the ward wouldn't leave his hair alone! "Some" people even questioned whether he looked fit to pass the sacrament as a deacon! Grrrrr!!!! Oh, this post is bringing back old hurt feelings. Hang in there, MG. Warrior is a talented, beautiful young man and his hair doesn't define who he is. And those mean, clueless people are not going to determine who he becomes.
AMEN!!!! I have a son that is 21... didnt serve a mission. YET. I keep praying... he is a GOOD boy. He bore his testimony in church in July! We had a good heart to heart this past weekend... I would love to share what all he told me but this would end up being a novel.... yeah... I agree. WHY ON EARTH do we say mean things... things that can crush a soul??!!! We are members of the church... we are ALL His children...
Warrior is a great guy!!!! I know I am impressed!!!
I have come to read your blog through our friend JeNece. I love the inspiring words you give in every blog. You write beautifully. And I enjoy the rants. We all need to go off sometimes. It makes us human and to feel as though we're not alone. The love you have for your children, unconditional and so utterly strong, always makes me feel like I'm not doing enough. And I don't even know your family, but the way you talk about them just radiates of the page. Thanks for your inspiration and dedication to your family. It makes me want to be better!
Stephanie
Warrior from the first time I saw your picture, I thought what a good looking kid. I don't think you should change a thing.
Wish I knew where people get the idea that they can just tell us things. It is like they think they have a right. OR it is their job. Wish so bad we could talk in person about this. Because we are in the middle of a something simlar. Only I can't blog about it right now. Wish I could.
I hate that people are soooo judemental. I have tried to teach my kids to look deeper than the outward appearances. It drives me crazy that people give their opinions when not asked. When I am a reciever of opinions that I never asked for I always say " I don't remember asking for your opinion." K-so I have only gotten to say it to my husband when I do a certain hairstyle...but I have been practicing so I can use it on someone! hahaha!
Sounds like your warrior has a good head on his shoulders! What a good momma!
that is SO lame. i hate when people judge and make rude comments. i keep my opinion to myself, why can't others do the same! he's totally handsome just the way he is. and really why judge a great kid by his hair length. you are only young once. and until he wants to cut it leave it how he likes it and feels good about himself.
people are SO RUDE!
I, for one, love the hair...I've heard it put this way before....a parent said. "So what if my kids hair is blue, if he is going to seminary, if he is worthy to bless the sacrament, if he is doing well in school...bring on the blue hair"
Couldn't agree more....your Warrior is a gem and a gent...you can tell just by looking at him.
Again, I wish I had a daughter old enough to marry him...they would have some beautiful babies.
I think as members of the church sometimes we just error in what we say just by the pure awkwardness of making conversation.
I caught myself saying the big NO NO The other day to a young YM president...HIm and his wife have been married for three years or so...and they are the cutest couple and the sweetest people...I said, "Don, you guys have got to have kids...you guys are going to be the best parents"....it was my way of complimenting, but I am sure that someone could take offense and call that me sticking my nose in someone's business.
So, if you can forgive me for that, then forgive the other idiots out there who say stupid stuff.
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