My Mr. Incredible became the victim of our economy. I received the news last Wednesday. I was basically numb. It hadn't really sunk in. We live in NC and people losing their jobs have been happening quite steadily seeing that Bank of America and Wachovia, Microsoft, etc are large companies in the Queen City. Many people we know have been laid off or let go. However, I had the "INVINCIBLE" bubble on and forgot that I am married to MR. INCREDIBLE and not Mr. Invincible! ::oops::
We have been blessed in so many ways. Although, he was let go the end of January. They put his termination date Feb. 2nd which allows us a good full month of insurance. He was also given a full 3 months severance. Which is better than many people who are just shown the door! For that I am so very thankful.
I have no MIDDLE ground! I go from high to low. So, I basically already have us living in a storage shed, sleeping in our car and showering at the local truck stop.
I tend to expect the worst so that I can be pleasantly surprised when the opportunity of licking the inside of a garbage can comes up. (laugh, it was meant to be funny).
My point is! I am a optimistic pessimist! LOL, nice huh?? LOL
I am grieving. I am grieving the loss of our income, the loss of security and the loss of stability. I am grieving the loss of my perfect little glass house. Dangit!
I have went through the stages of DENIAL and now I am quiet comfortable in the stage of self pitty and woah, woah is me!
My daily regimen is::
wake up
PRAY
cry
get dressed
cry some more
pray again
rush to work,
work myself until I drop.
Pray
cry and
WAKE UP!
Sometimes, you need a good BOOHOO session! I have mourned and I am ready to move on.
We have been blessed in so many ways. Although, he was let go the end of January. They put his termination date Feb. 2nd which allows us a good full month of insurance. He was also given a full 3 months severance. Which is better than many people who are just shown the door! For that I am so very thankful.
I have no MIDDLE ground! I go from high to low. So, I basically already have us living in a storage shed, sleeping in our car and showering at the local truck stop.
I tend to expect the worst so that I can be pleasantly surprised when the opportunity of licking the inside of a garbage can comes up. (laugh, it was meant to be funny).
My point is! I am a optimistic pessimist! LOL, nice huh?? LOL
I am grieving. I am grieving the loss of our income, the loss of security and the loss of stability. I am grieving the loss of my perfect little glass house. Dangit!
I have went through the stages of DENIAL and now I am quiet comfortable in the stage of self pitty and woah, woah is me!
My daily regimen is::
wake up
PRAY
cry
get dressed
cry some more
pray again
rush to work,
work myself until I drop.
Pray
cry and
WAKE UP!
Sometimes, you need a good BOOHOO session! I have mourned and I am ready to move on.
I will either be looking majorly hot in the next 3 months OR my new fashion statement will be wearing a TENT!
I had a break down on Wednesday and I feel much better. It is amazing what sleep will do. A friend told me about HALT! They use it for alcoholics and drug abusers. But, it is a good thing to live by when experiencing stress.
H- Hunger, never let yourself go hungry
A- Anger- watch for signs (A for me is ANXIETY)
L- Loneliness - don't be secluded
T- Tired, do not get over exhausted. REst is necessary.
The only reason why I can post this NOW, is because I have moved from the denial stage, and self pitty stage to PEACE!
I had a break down on Wednesday and I feel much better. It is amazing what sleep will do. A friend told me about HALT! They use it for alcoholics and drug abusers. But, it is a good thing to live by when experiencing stress.
H- Hunger, never let yourself go hungry
A- Anger- watch for signs (A for me is ANXIETY)
L- Loneliness - don't be secluded
T- Tired, do not get over exhausted. REst is necessary.
The only reason why I can post this NOW, is because I have moved from the denial stage, and self pitty stage to PEACE!
This too shall pass. I do not know how long we must endure this trial but I am willing to go the distance. I am grateful that my storm is that of a lost income and not a physical or health issue! I look forward to the new person and the stronger family we will become as we make this journey together. Sometimes our biggest trials can be some of our biggest blessings. I believe this but more importantly I KNOW THIS!
So, I am here, I am ok, and you all can stop worrying! I have just picked up extra hours at the airport. If we are not employed by the end of Feb. I hope they will accept my request to go full time so I can at least have INSURANCE for my babies.
If Mr. Incredible can not find a job opportunity in his profession he's going to fall back on his other skillz! Like being the next American Gigolo! LOL, HA... sorry ladies HE IS ALL MINE! and it's staying that way! But, OHHH he would be so good.
He suggested he might be mine and my sil's PERSONAL trainer! LOL
Seriously, he put us through college as a mechanic and a truck driver. He still holds a valid CDL. My baby is a hard worker and we are survivors!
I keep having that song play over and over in my head, "I'M A SURVIVOR"!
HEY GUESS WHAT?? I get to Fast for myself this Sunday! and for all the others who have lost their income and for the ECONOMY!! ::woot woot:
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Good luck. We'll be thinking of you.
Hey, we are there too, since August!!!! It is slim pickins here in Idaho for programmers! We've been interviewing some, applying lots and here we sit. I can totally relate to the ups and downs of the situation. I try to keep positive and remember that we are all healthy, we have food and a place to live. We are rich in the things that matter. My husband loves me and my kids and honors his Priesthood! Just need a job!!!!
Jen! How are you surviving? That is 6months. Is he doing a job outside of his profession?
Hang in there you are in my prayers this fast sunday.
Oh, Goose. This is so rough. I wondered what was going on when you mentioned being thankful for a friend who was helping you coupon shop for groceries.
I think YOU are incredible for keeping a sense of humor in tact through this, or at least the facade of one on your blog!! LOL Mr. Incredible being the next American Gigolo still has me laughing! And you sound a bit like my husband -- have low expectations so that whatever happens, it's better than what you expected.
It sounds like your husband has some decent fall-back skills, and you already being employed is a huge plus in all this. If my husband were to lose his job......I am unemployed and without a degree. And Superman's degree is in history. (So useful!)
In any case....I'll be praying for you. And don't let yourself get lonely -- talk to your bloggy friends! ;)
I ♥ you Goose.
Sending my prayers your way. Understand where your at. We were in your stituation 2 years ago.
MG I am so sorry! I hope he can find a job in his preferred profession, but it is really good that he has other things to fall back on, just in case.
I'll be thinking of you and your family-hoping for all the best for you!!
I am so sorry to hear this! I do have a couple of questions though... Was Mr. Incredible's profession a mechanic or something else? The reason I ask this because I have heard that the mechanical profession is pretty secure right now with the car industry being so bad. People are spending more to get their cars fixed instead of just buying new cars. So, if this wasn't the profession that he was just let go from, maybe that would be better for him to back into than the truck driving. My mother works as a cashier at a truck stop and tells me that she can see that the economy is doing a number on the truck drivers, too.
Oh Goose, I am so sorry. You have my prayers comin at ya too. I know that you guys will pull through this. You are so strong. I wish I could do more to help, but I'm stumped with the distance between us. You definitely have my prayers though.
♥hugs♥
Sending prayers your way! I'll fast for you too! Love ya!
I am sorry MG. We have been there almost a year. I don't say anything because my sweet husband is so sensitive about it... He now has a sales job, but commission only-- we can't seem to get a break. No one wants to hire me for obvious reasons. It is hard. My love and prayers!
I feel so bad for you. I would have done the same as you, just would still be freaking. I will be praying and fasting for you and your family and all those who are in the same situation as well as that darn ol' economy.
MG I'm so sorry. My prayers are being added to the list. I'm going to include you in my fast today too then, it's never too late to add a reason to fast is it?
Hang in there. Keep paying your tithing, which can be the most trying part of an experience like this, but you'll be blessed for it.
I will fast for you too... sorry to hear about this. My oldest son is losing his job as well...I don't know if they are going to be as nice to him as they were to your husband. It is rough all over....
Maybe you can write a book??? You are so good at writing?
You will be in my prayers. I am with WOnder Woman--if hubby lost his job--I have nothing to fall back on. A survivor you are!! Hang in there!
In the 3 or 4 lay off's we have survived the longest one was 11 months. It was painful and I was not the best example of faith but we did survive.
Your hubby is educated and the prospects will be better for him than for most in the job market.
We will keep you in our prayers. This scripture always plays in my head when we are struggling.
D&C 84:82-83
82 For, consider the lilies of the field, how they grow, they toil not, neither do they spin; and the kingdoms of the world, in all their glory, are not arrayed like one of these.
83 For your Father, who is in heaven, knoweth that you have need of all these things.
Mg, you know we have had our share. Stay strong, Heavenly Father will not let you lick the garbage can.. hee hee
I know you will be ok. You have such a strong famili and I know it will work itself out. If you ever need to unemployment specialist, you can always email me, you can even have my #. But only if you make me laugh too.
I ♥ you..
ofa lahi atu aupito!!!
First off- IZ is playing on your song list & I just LOVE him.. I love his music. Especially that one it is perfect for us. Did you listen to it lately. If it all falls apart, I will know deep in my heart I was loved by YOU!! Oohhh - Ooohhh I am singing to you because you is my friend & I will shower with you- ok not with you actually. But my family & I will be with you at the truck stop.
And I SO understand. I mean really I am the same way. I worry about my babies too.
Oh wait But I was loved by you!!!! He just said it again. I had to sing a long
Girlfriend - We are going to make it! It's going to be alright & you can always come live with us. Because then - I was "Loved by YOU!!!)
No seriously- I'd never let you shower at a truck stop. The Sonic by me has a pretty nice bathroom... And there is a car wash not far away either. You might be a lot warmer here then there if we are living in a garage. But well it does get pretty stinking hot here & we could use my garage as a sauna & charge people...
he's singing again- But I don't speak Hawaiian... Can't we just go there & shower in the ocean?
We will survive.
I love your attitude. I GET to fast for myself today!!!
Hey girl. I am so sorry about the news.
Everything will be just fine. I just know it.
You guys are too good for God not to be in charge.
I hope you come to Knoxville and then we can be BFF's in real life.
And don't forget Obama promised to pay all of our mortgages.
I love your candid honesty.
And I cannot imagine how scary it is right now for you, but I want you to know that I know you will all be o.k.! I just do.
And remember that it isn't always about this life...but sometimes it's all about the next one.
We hav ebeen in that boat twice and I guess HF just blesses me with extra faith because my husband seems to fall apart and can't always pick himself out of the dump. You will be fine. Just let your Bishop know what is happening so that if/when you need help he will be able to. This is why I pay fast offerings. Love you
Hi there! My mom just got laid off from her job too. She's kinda stressed out too, but I keep pointing her back to scripture! Gods Word is the only thing that can give you peace in any situation.
Proverbs 3:5
Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will guide your paths.
HUGS, girl!!
MG-
I know that Heavenly Father will bless your family some how. You are awesome and so is your DH. Where the Lord closes a door he opens a window. Remembering your family in my prayers.
I love your sense of humor. You are the Mother!
Hugs and love ♥
Im so sorry MG! My hubbies job is very insecure right now. Each day when the phone rings I worry it's him saying he's been let go. Just the THOUGHT of it sends me into a panic attack (seriously) and it's very frightening when you have all the mouths to feed. Anyway, I feel your pain (been there before) and am thinking of you guys and hoping and praying work is found SOON. what a blessing that you have a job to fall back on somewhat...
the economy sucks rocks.
Bless your heart...I hope things come together quickly for you and your sweet family! Sounds like you have a plan and a optimistic outlook. Let us know how things are going.
Chrys, this post was so sweet. I am so sorry you have been on this roller coaster ride. You know you and the personal trainer/cook and kiddos are always welcome here...it would be like one big rockband party all the time. No sheds or no truck stop showers. You are right you both are hard hard workers. We are praying that good work will come fast to you. I am so glad you have the airport too and you put in your time already so that you can work full time. Thanks for your openess and honesty on your post in such hard times. I know it lifts others and myself-not that you are stuggling but the strength through the storm that you show!
I am so sorry to hear this! We have been through it a couple of times and it sucks! What a horrible feeling. I can totally relate to your grief.
I will keep everything crossed for you - and send up some prayers too :)
Good luck!
Hey Goose! I'm praying for you over here in Crazyland!
Sending lots of ♥♥ your way!
MG...sooo sorry to hear this! I know that Heavenly Father will bless you if you continue to be faithful. By the by...been there done this...for over 2 years! It was hard...but we had everything we needed..home, health, food & family. I will be praying for your family as well!
It was so nice meeting you while you were here. I am sorry for what you are going through. I know there is blessings through trials though...its just tough to see them while you are in the middle of them. You guys are in our prayers!
Thanks for sharing!
XOXO :)
Heather
I'm praying with you. It's only a matter of time before my hunny may lose his job too!
Hey cuzz0 my thoughts and prayers are with you and da ohana. Don't worry things will be alright, Mr. Incredible is resilient. But it does make me wonder about my job security, within the past week, Target closed down their Arkansas DC, 500+ people are out of jobs. Hopefully the North Carolina DC, will see better days. Take Care!!
I hear so much about lay offs on the news. I'm sorry to hear that you are now part of that. I can fast for you, too. I sure hope he can find a job in the area he would like to be in.
I hear ya. We didn't even have a job to lose. My hubby is self-employed in construction and the economy is just sucking the life out of us. I've been so depressed and stressed that I haven't even had the heart to blog. (Yeah, you know it's bad when a blog addict/daily blogger doesn't even want to face the computer or comment.) I'm getting all kinds of outside pressure (not from my hubby) to go back to work, but I sooooo don't want to leave my babies until they are in school. I feel stuck between a rock and a hard place and my faith is sure being tried. I don't know how to pray any harder, but I'll sure put in a good word for you.
I am so sorry! It is so scary to go through periods of unemployment. Our longest one was only 5 weeks but those 5 weeks came just a couple weeks after we got our preemie babies out of the hospital. We were uninsured for 5 weeks with fragile, 3 months old but only 7 pound babies!
I know the right thing will work out for you but I wish you all the strength in the world to ENDURE what lies between here and there.
Oh Chrissy, I am so sorry! This is so scary! Every day it is something new..and something worse! I think no matter who we are, we fear for our jobs! Chin up dearie and think positive!!!
Good luck thinking of you all. I hope he finds a job soon.
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