I walked into each of my children's bedrooms and admired their beautiful sleeping bodies and oh how my heart ached. I had missed them so much. The last time I saw each of them awake was Monday Night, at family prayer. I was gone before they awoke each day and home after they went to bed. I would leave at 7am and get home at 11pm. The first time we saw each other again was Thursday afternoon. Only to gear up for 2 soccer practices and a JV football game.
No one complained through the week and everyone always sounded happy when I would call. I have been implementing the FlyLady. I did it years ago. I started blogging and needed to implement her schedule once again. I even have my children FLYING! This is a note I left for them. If you can make it a game they get it done.
Sweetheart came home and gave me an incredibly long hug. I love my afternoon greetings with all of the kids! I have a thing with each of them. Which can be found near the last paragraph of here, here, here and here. It is a special time of day. I think it is Sweetheart's most important time.
Sweetheart had asked about my work schedule. I told her I was thinking about working the same hours again. "OH, she replied' and then her little chin quivered and her body began to shake. Her tears moved me to tears. She told me she wants me home. I told her why I was working and she said she would rather have no Christmas than have me gone. She wants me home in the afternoon. OK, settled. no more doubles. I can still achieve the same hours and be home in the morning when they awake and in the afternoon after school. My working is purely optional and not a have to.
My babies need me and more importantly they miss me! I am never missed because I am ALWAYS HOME!! It's nice to be missed. For now, I will continue to rock my babies and be a presence in the home always. For one day my babies will leave and I will have all the time I need to reach personal goals. When I chose to have children. I chose to put their needs first. What I love is that all my babies know the importance of a mother in the home. I'm thankful that we live within our means and that our children ask for very little.
When I share the ages of my children with co-workers they never seem to understand about me only choosing to work one or two days a week. They tell me your children are older. They can take care of each other. Our children are under our charge. I didn't have children so that they could babysit one another. Some families do but it's not for our family. On occasion Warrior may have to run someone to practice or YW and Beauty may have to watch the little ones for an hour or two but nothing more.
These pics were taken 2 Easter's ago. ICK!! They are the most current of me with them. I guess I need to be in front of the camera more. NOT!
23 comments:
i love being missed..i should try going away sometime too :)
oh and i BIG red puffy heart FLYLADY!!
you are an amazing mama and on of my role models for real! what are you talking about woman...you look gorgeous in these photos!
Thanks for the sweet comments!
I need me some Chicken Katsu...good thing we are having some for dinnah tomorrow!
YUM!
I love fly lady! You are an amazing mom, I agree with mama hood! It is SO good to see another mother love her kids at this level! What a great example you are.
Yes, they are older, so they need you all the more. M
What a Wonderful mom to listen to your daughter & make the change that fast. You truly showed her your love & what being a mother means to you...
You are So Amazing to me & I think you are absolutely Beautiful!! I would of never of known those pictures were 2 yrs old because you look just as good in your picture with your friend at the airport..
What Precious children you have!
Ok- I just read your posts on your kids. They truly are amazing. You sure are blessed & you have done Good!
Can you give me some pointers - honestly. Was there something you started with each of them as they went to school & came home. The way they are so excited to see you & how open they are to show you love. I love that! I want my kids to know I Love them like that & to feel their happy to have me home..
What's your trick - it's working, help me! Please...
Wow good job woman, I feel very strong that teenagers need there parents more than evah.. Way to put your children first..
Wow good job woman, I feel very strong that teenagers need there parents more than evah.. Way to put your children first.. Beautiful woman, beautiful children.
good for you! your children are so sweet and love you so much. i can't even imagine working those hours. yuck. i feel the same way about working. as long as everyone's happy, great. but my babies are numero uno always.
I have no idea why i am up so late on a sat. night...have to be up for church in....7 hours. ARGH!
Just yesterday while talking w/my boss she gave me the option of working full-time or part-time. I chose the part-time even though my kids are older as well. I feel that once they are out of the house then I have all the time in the world to work but right now I have them home and that time goes by too fast and is too precious to give up. So, thank you for your post because it just reassures me that what I am doing is right.
I can aspire to be more like you Miss Goose. You are a role model to many in the mother department. You seem so strong and confident, this is carried to them as well. They can only appreciate you in situations of change too. Thanks.
Thanks so much for this post. You are a truly beautiful woman who DOES need to be in front of the camera more! You display your inner beauty (not to be cliche) all the time for us on your blog. It's okay to acknowledge the outer beauty, too.
--I love your new background, by the way.
You're a wonderful mom who's got her priorites straight. Thanks for showing us all how it's done. And for introducing me to FlyLady!! Woo hoo!
you are such a WONDERFUL MOMMA!!!!!!! wow....if every mom was like you, the world would be a better place indeed!!!!!!
you guys I suckthe big egg at being a mother. my kids go to mr. incredible for everything. because of the way I react. I get angry yell and scream and give out punishments that are harsher than deserved. My kids love me because I can make things up big in other ways. I love them big and I have fun with them but I am unflexible.
I don't mean to write in a manner like look at me or I am such a good mom, because it is one of many places I struggle.
sounds like you got the whole thing down to a T-working, cleaning, deliganting, and having fun-cooking-blogging-sporting-etc. etc!!!! guess I'll have to take lessons when I get done with school and work full time!!!
Oh come on Mothergoose, you are a great Mom! You care about your kids and that is what matters. You would not be so hard on them if you didn't love them! You are an insiration to more people than you know! Mwah! Love ya!
You are a great Momma! You recognize what truly is important and you have your priorities straight. You are a good example to me. Working doubles is rough, so I hope that in addition to enjoying being back to normal with the kids you'll find some self-pampering time. By the way, I like that idea of turning everything into a game to get things done. Genius!
This is such a hard thing for mothers. Being needed at home, wanting to bring in some extra money because we love our family. I, like you choose to be with my family in the morning and home when they get home. So I work a few hours while they are in school. My cell phone will be in my pocket soon. As it arrives today. So they know they can alway's reach me. I love and admire how strong you are in what you believe. In The Family!
Hi! I've been reading your blog and really appreciate this post. Even though I'm a mom of young children I feel like the world looks at me like I could be doing something so much more important. It's nice to feel validated and shown that my children will notice and do appreciate what I do. Hopefully that makes sense!
MG,
That *is* being a good momma...recognizing the areas that we need to work on and not thinking we're perfect all the time.
That's great that you can change your schedule back to stop the flow of tears!! I have 3 teens and I know I probably have to keep a better eye on THEM than my 3 little ones. lol They keep me hoppin'!
MG,
That *is* being a good momma...recognizing the areas that we need to work on and not thinking we're perfect all the time.
That's great that you can change your schedule back to stop the flow of tears!! I have 3 teens and I know I probably have to keep a better eye on THEM than my 3 little ones. lol They keep me hoppin'!
I completely agree with you Chrys...I feel the same way about my children and that is why I only work a couple of days a week also. I think the older they get the more they need us...really need us on an emotional level. I found it easier to work when they were little, it was still harder, but it is harder now!!
i think that is where everyone gets it wrong.. in some ways it is better to work while kids are young not older...
I watched an episode of oprah that had these teenagers caught up in terrible things.. the dr said parents might think the children are only alone from 3-6 pm.. you think it is only a few hours.. to teenagers that is a long time and they can get up to a lot of mischief...
it is important to be at home for teenagers!!!!
I love the photos. I think you do need to be in front of the camera more often.
We are our worst critics.
Isn't it nice to be needed?
Maybe I should leave for a week or two so that I can be appreciated too. :)
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